The Goods Performance OS

Family • Coach • Youth Edition

What this is

The Goods Performance OS is a simple system that helps adults and kids understand what kind of support fits a moment.

It gives shared language to signal needs like:

• “I need focus.”

• “I’m steady.”

• “This gives me energy.”

• “Let’s pause.”

• “This is done.”

These are not personalities or labels.
They are current signals.

Performance is a state, not a trait.

The goal is not to push more.
The goal is to support better.

What problem it solves

Even well-intended adults often:

• add pressure at the wrong time

• talk when quiet would help

• praise effort in ways that add load

• confuse motivation with stress

This system removes guesswork by helping adults and coaches respond to the signal being sent, not the outcome they want.

Quick reference: If / Then bridge

If a kid signals “I need focus”
→ Adults move to silent support
No tips. No praise. Just presence.

If a kid signals “I’m steady”
→ Adults give one next fact
(“Three minutes left.” “Water is here.”)

If a kid signals “Let’s pause”
→ Adults offer exit dignity
No questions. No fixing.

Closing the loop (after the moment)

When the stress has passed and the nervous system is back to baseline (often much later):

• Don’t dissect the performance.

• Do ask: “Did the signal work for you today?”

This shifts the focus from how someone performed to how communication worked, building better awareness for next time.

What this is not

This system is not:

• a reward chart

• a behavior tracker

• a discipline tool

• therapy or coaching

This is not a remote control for your child.
It is a weather vane for their nervous system.

It does not promise outcomes.
It does not replace judgment or relationships.

How it’s meant to be used

• Kids choose the card or signal that fits them.

• Adults adjust support to match.

• Cards can be shown silently.

• Language stays short and safe.

If the system adds pressure, it pauses.

One rule that matters most

Use this system to understand, not to control.

Warning for adults:
Do not reward a specific state.
If one signal is treated as “better,” kids will stop being honest about what they need to perform safely.

When people feel respected, trust and performance grow naturally.